FOUR SECONDS OF THOUGHT - that's all it takes between accomplishing something or just going through the motions and getting nowhere.
Kavanah is what makes a more effective parent.
Like many parenting books, this book will give you very specific techniques for formulating what you want from each of your children and helping them meet your expectations. Unlike other parenting books, it will show you more than just the right techniques - it will help you become aware of the thoughts and feelings that prevent you from employing these techniques effectively.
Confident Parents, Competent Children - Four Seconds at a Time gives you the building blocks to learn how to:
avoid misunderstandings and arguments with your child.
feel less resentment, anger, and frustration.
elicit your child's thoughts, feelings, and desires without putting him on the defensive.
Each chapter of this book focuses on one middah, a life principle that will guide you toward the kavanah - the end you wish for - before you say or do anything in a parenting situation. Designed in an attractive, easy-to-read format, it includes graphic shortcut tools - such as, PARADIGM SHIFT, KAVANAH and MAASEH, SUR MEI'RA and ASEH TOV, and WORDS NOT TO LIVE BY - to help put the middah into practice.
B'ezras Hashem, it won't be long before you see the difference it will make for you and for your child. In four seconds at a time, you can become a much more effective parent!